To understand this blog fully I advise that you read this magazine article - Link -
warning article contains sexual references.

If you’ve read the article you’ll know that it is about a teen couple who cannot have sex because the girl developed a rare condition called ‘volvodynia’ which basically means that when experiencing anything remotely sexual in ‘that area’ she experiences overwhelming pain…and not just then, the condition can lead to constant pain. The bizarre thing is the condition just started on e way and the couple don’t know why but it does mean they cannot have sex and may not ever be able to.

The reason I highlight this article is not because they cannot have sex, nor to raise awareness of the condition but to highlight something that stood out when I read the article (which I stumbled accross by mistake).

As part the girl (Alison) quotes: ‘I sometimes wonder why Damien doesn’t look elsewhere for sex but he gets angry when I say that. I know he loves me, if he didn’t he would have left a long time ago’.

The thing that gets me about that quote is this. Here we are in a society which has gone sex mad, people think it’s bizarre if a couple are not doing it or at least taking part in sexual activity but here are a young couple who have been forced to learn what love really is.

Martin my tutor at Oasis said in tutor group last week something along the lines of ‘When my wife and I got married we just thought the vowels were nice things, but we’ve learnt over the years what they actually mean. For better or for worse sometimes means for worse’

Now that doesn’t mean he is unhappy, but means sometimes you have to go with the bad things and I think that highlights a point in any relationship. A relationship does grow during good times but when things get bad it’s when a relationship really develops and in the case of the couple in the article not being able to have sex is what’s gone but what they’ve been left with (in my opinion) is an opportunity to develop a closer relationship, a relationship where they learn about each other on different levels to sex.

I think the condition the girl has is really sad and I don’t think that them being able to find other levels of their relationship by any means makes it worthwhile, however I wonder that if there wasn’t so much pressure for sex how much closer couples could get, if there wasn’t tempation how much of each others other qualities could they learn to apreciate…don’t get me wrong, I believe God designed sex to be a good thing…just in the right circumstances, with the right person.